Uncoupling Overcouplings

A 4-Week Somatic Journey to Unravel Stuck Patterns & Reclaim Your Freedom

Some patterns don’t shift just by thinking about them.

You’re doing your inner work. You’ve gained insight, journaled. Yet certain emotional loops—fear around intimacy, guilt in saying no, stress tied to success—still show up in your body like an old, familiar script.

That’s because some patterns aren’t just habits of the mind. They’re overcouplings—deeply wired associations in the nervous system.

🔹 Love & Obligation – Feeling like love always requires self-sacrifice.
🔹 Freedom & Loneliness – Associating independence with isolation.
🔹 Success & Stress – Believing that achievement must come at the cost of well-being.

To truly shift these patterns, we need to work on multiple levels:

🧠 Cognitive (Mind): Unravel old beliefs and rewire thought patterns.
🌿 Somatic (Body): Gently release stored tension and create new associations.
🎭 Experiential (Behavioral): Take small, embodied actions that prove a new reality is possible.

This course isn’t about forcing change—it’s about working with your body’s natural intelligence to uncouple what no longer serves you.

What You’ll Experience

✅ Somatic Mapping & Titration

  • Identify and track where the overcoupling lives in your body.

  • Use pendulation (moving between safety and activation) to expand capacity without overwhelm.

✅ Guided Body-Based Practices

  • Use breath and movement-based decoupling to create new, embodied associations.

  • Gently complete frozen survival responses (fight, flight, freeze) that still live in your system.

✅ Cognitive Rewiring & Inquiry

  • Identify old beliefs and reframe them with practical cognitive tools.

  • Use The Work of Byron Katie and inquiry techniques to dismantle rigid associations.

✅ Experiential & Relational Practices

  • Engage in safe social experiments to practice new ways of relating.

  • Use co-regulation & group work to shift patterns that were formed in relationships.

✅ Integration Support

  • Short, actionable exercises between sessions to deepen the work in daily life.

  • Access to a private community for reflection, support, and shared insights.

Meet Steven.

I’ve spent my life exploring (and stumbling through) what it means to be deeply human—what it takes to feel connected, grounded, and fully alive. Through years of somatic practice, men’s work, and community facilitation, I’ve learned that real transformation doesn’t happen in isolation. It happens in spaces where we feel seen, supported, and challenged to grow.

That’s why I created Intimately Human—not as another self-help program, but as a living, breathing practice of embodiment and connection. A space where healing, resilience, and authentic expression become woven into daily life.

I’m not here to “fix” or “heal” anyone. My role is to create the conditions where your body’s natural wisdom can unfold—where stress can release, capacity can expand, and a fuller, more aligned version of you can emerge.

My Background:

🔹 Somatic Therapist & Facilitator (Hakomi, Compassionate Inquiry)
🔹 10+ years of Embodiment & Relational Work (breathwork, consent, authentic relating)
🔹 Men’s Work Facilitator (ManKind Project, Embodied Masculinity)
🔹 Outdoor & Experiential Educator (2014–2018)
🔹 Masters in Education, University of Washington

Course Structure

🌀 Live Weekly Sessions (90 min) – Experiential and interactive, combining somatic practice, cognitive tools, and real-time integration.
📖 Integration Prompts & Practices – Simple exercises between sessions to create lasting change.
👥 Private Online Community – A space for deepening the work, sharing breakthroughs, and receiving support.

Who This is For

✔ You feel trapped in emotional loops that no longer align with who you are.
✔ You want more ease and choice in relationships, work, and self-expression.
✔ You’ve tried to change through mindset work but sense something deeper needs to shift.

Investment

$199 for the full 4-week course Includes all live sessions, recordings, and community access.